Sunday, June 1, 2008

OPEN LETTER TO MOTHERS OF DAUGHTERS

Dear Mothers of Daughters(MODs) :
This is a sincere plea on behalf of Mothers Of Sons(MOSs) everywhere. PLEASE- give your little girls Godly instructions as they are growing up. When they are whining for indecent clothing "because everyone else wears short skirts/ skimpy tops/ sexy bikinis etc... remember that you are not expected to be their best friend at each and every moment. Sometimes you have to be the bad guy and say "No". Sometimes just because something is fashionable or in style does not mean that it should be worn by an adult, much less a child or a teenager. Too often lately all I see are girls who look as if they are being trained to be living the life of a prostitute, rather than a lady.
Secondly dear MODs it is very important to not only have them dress the part of a nice girl, but teach them also to BE a "nice" girl. Is your daughter always getting into conflicts with others? Does she have a new best every week only to be in a squabble with the old one? Does she speak kind words to those around her? Or does she say things that would have gotten your mouth washed out with soap? Teach her that other people have feelings that can hurt just as easily as hers. Show her that Jesus teaches to pray for our enemies and not to repay evil for evil. Sure, she is going to be made fun of. Much the same way she is going to be made fun of over not walking around with her thong hanging out the back of her pants, or not wearing shirts that everyone can see through. That type of teasing will eventually pass.
Last, but definately not least, teach her some manners. Show her when to say "please, thank you, you're welcome, yes or no ma'am or sir". Teach her to sit with her legs closed. Let her know that burping, while everyone does it occasionaly, is not something to be proud of and show off. Let her know that "you're such a girl" is not an insult. She was designed by God to different from boys. That it is not a bad thing to act "like a girl"
You may be wondering why we MOSs are even concerned with h0w you raise your daughters. Well, the truth is we have every right to be concerned. You see, one day our sons are going to grow up. They are probably going to want to get married and have little sons and daughters of their own. And who might they expect to mother those little bundles of joy? Your daughters of course!! We do not want our grandchildren being raised by the generation of Brittney and Paris and Mylie Cyrus disciples. We would like to see our sons marry women who have been raised with morals. So MODs everywhere, please raise your girls to be ladies. I promise as a MOS, to do my best to give you a great son in law. Will do your part to give me a good daughter in law?

2 comments:

rthling said...

Thank you! I am one of those MODs trying to raise a lady in a world of tiny Brittanys and Mileys. Why, oh, why can't I get support instead of gaping-mouthed ridicule and scorn from even the church going, supposedly Christ-minded parents of other girls? Why is my ten year old, who still likes to play dress up, even while she is learning to bake and do "lady stuff" the one who is weird? Why do our pre-teens need to worry about their figure or whether a boy likes them? Where is modesty and respect in today's society of sexually charged adolescence? Since when is it uber-conservative to make sure my daughter's innocence is prized and protected?
In a country where a vaccine that protects from sexually transmitted disease borne cancer is being pushed on our children, I should not be surprised, but I can't help but be sad as I watch the pool of acceptable mates for my children diminish and become extinct.

Kelli said...

Oh I am so glad to hear that there IS someone out there attempting to raise a Godly lady!! You are definately a great mom in book!!!